Archive for July, 2013

Social Media: Necessary Evil

Posted on July 16, 2013 in Young Alum Life

Elle Metz

Young Alumni Programs Manager

As young alums, we’ve grown up with social media. It’s part of our lives. Let me just say this up front: I like social media. I also hate it. It makes it easier to stay connected. It also encourages us to constantly compare ourselves to our peers. It’s fun. It’s also narcissistic. I understand the power of social media for brands and for our own personal brand. I understand that it’s a part of modern day life. I also understand that people tend to represent the best possible view of their lives. I’m definitely guilty of it.

While reading over some posts this weekend (and posting myself), I wondered just what it would be like if people were completely honest on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc….

Based on real posts:

Worst boyfriend award ever goes to Johnnie who got me ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Thanks a million. Not

Happy 57th Birthday to my mom! Gosh you really bug me sometimes. 

More pictures of me doing the skinny arm! Cuz I look thinner when I do it! Everyone, come see how good I look! Be jealous

My wedding: here are the 30 pictures I like. There are 500 others that I hate.

I almost went running this morn. Then I decided to sleep in instead. #lazy

Look at this photo of my dog! Isn’t my little family of three the most perfect thing ever?! #grownup

The one healthy, pretty meal I made in the last two months #backtoarbystomorrow

Look a baby! We’re related somehow! When I hold her, I look cuter too

A sunset! I’m the best photographer in the world!

Here are the first drinks we had at the beginning of the night. They’re pretty cocktails. Things got reaaaaaaaaal ugly after that though

Best friends! (but really we talk sporadically and just look really happy in this photo)

New job starts today! I’m terrified…

Got a tattoo. Go ahead, tell me how cool and rebellious I am

Baseball game! This view is the worst. I wish I had better seats. 

Ok night out with people that I kind of like #summer

Granted, some people are being honest when they post that they are so excited to be reunited with their friends, or that all the birthday posts made them feel like the luckiest person in the world, or that they have the greatest mom ever. But let’s be real here, people only post the good stuff. Think about that when you start comparing yourself to everyone else. No one has a perfect life. A lot of people don’t have it nearly as together as it appears, especially us young alums. So keep posting, keep tweeting, keep choosing filters – just don’t get sucked in. Better yet, take a social media hiatus for a while. It’s refreshing.


Happy Birthday America

Posted on July 3, 2013 in ND News, Young Alum Life

Elle Metz

Young Alumni Programs Manager

The Fourth of July is quickly climbing my list of favorite holidays. Pros: no crazy expectations (I’m looking at you, New Year’s), fireworks, America, barbecues, wearing red, white and blue. Cons: the biker convention across the street from my house has been shooting off fireworks at 1 am every night this week.

Across the country, people are headed to beach houses or baseball games or cook outs. They’re wearing crazy America-themed outfits (re: jorts). Or if they’re like me, compiling “USA” playlists that consist of everything from the Counting Crows’ “American Girls” to Kanye and Jay-Z’s “Made in America.” We can’t help ourselves. We love the USA.

Our country has a rich and tumultuous history. Notre Dame was reminded of this when we commemorated the 150th anniversary of the Battle of Gettysburg on June 22. At this battle, our own Father Corby gave a blessing to the Confederate and Union soldiers. He later described the scene: “I noticed that all, Catholic and non-Catholic, officers and private soldiers, showed a profound respect, wishing to receive at this fatal crisis every benefit of divine grace …. (My) general absolution was intended for all … not only for the brigade, but for all, North and South, who were susceptible to it and who were about to appear before their Judge.” 

Father Jenkins traveled to that very spot to honor this history and hold mass. Check out the video recap here. Being a film/television major, I was reminded of Coach Boone’s speech from Remember the Titans:

“Anybody know what this place is?  This is Gettysburg…Fifty thousand men died right here on this field, fightin’ the same fight that we’re still fightin’ amongst ourselves today…Listen to their souls men.  ‘I Killed my brother with malice in my heart.’  ‘Hatred destroyed my family.’  You listen and you take a lesson from the dead.  If we don’t come together right now, then we, too, will be destroyed.  Just like they were.  I don’t care if you like each other or not, but you will respect each other, and maybe, I don’t know, maybe we’ll learn to play this game like men.”

Chills. Gets me every time. But in all seriousness, Independence Day is more than fireworks and great food. As Father Corby and yes, Denzel Washington remind us, America is special because of our diversity. How wonderful that we’re a melting pot. And how wonderful that despite our differences, we can still relate to each other, person to person, as humans. We share similar fears, joys, needs and desires. So on America’s birthday this year, be thankful for our differences and similarities. Be tolerant and kind. And enjoy the fun times.