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Blog at Substack, The Nested Pathway


My essays at (2016-present)


My archived blog at Psychology Today (2009-2022):

Moral Landscapes: Living the Life that is Good for One to Live


Selected Blog Posts with Links

Un-Nested Humans, Un-Human Nature?

PARENTING POSTS (Babies, Sleep, Birth, Circumcision, Breastfeeding, Play, General Parenting, Children’s rights)

GENERAL TOPICS (Basic Needs, Self-Actualization and Human Thriving; Societal Characteristics; Indigenous Wisdom; Nature Connection; Morality)


Ten Things Everyone Should Know About Babies

Five Things NOT to Do to Babies

How Modern Societies Violate Human Development

Raising a Baby Well: Like Climbing Mount Everest

Early Childhood Care: What Should Centers Provide?

Authoritarianism Towards Babies

The Original Sin of Babies

Avoid Extremes of Baby Care

What Does “Spoiling” a Baby Mean? Can It Be Done?

Disbelieving the Importance of Mothering

Why Provide Empathic Care for Infants?

What Is “Good Enough Mothering” of a Baby?

Mother Love Used to Matter

The Hows and Whys of Attachment Parenting

Should You Treat Your Baby Like Your Phone?

Can You Spoil a Baby?

Bullying Starts With Babies

Protect (All) Your Boys from Early Trauma

Why Carefully Invest Daily in a Child

Why Synchronize and Bond With Your Children

The Missing Voice of Babies

Can Isolated Babies Become “Real” Human Beings?

What is Child Flourishing?

Respecting Babies and Young Children

Make America’s Kids Healthy: Soothing Birth

Make America’s Children Healthy Again, Pt. 3: Togetherness

“Government-Sanctioned Child Abuse”: Border Separation

Make America’s Children Healthy (Part 2): Affection

Make America’s Children Healthy (Again): Nutrition

Baby in the Senate! Is That Good?

The ‘On-Demand’ Life and the Basic Needs of Babies

Why Keep Baby Happy?

The Science and Art of Mothering

Killing Mothering, the Center of Society

12 Ways to Nurture Babies at Conception, Birth, and Beyond

How to Play with Your Baby

Bronco-Buster Parenting: Baby Unwise

Baby Care: 3 Rs for Raising A Happy Child

Baby Care: Baselines for Mental Health

Baselines for Babies

What Adults Did to Me at Birth: A Baby’s Point of View

Raising Children With Love or Dynamite?

Be Worried About Boys, Especially Baby Boys

Sleep Train a Baby? Don’t!

‘Grit’ Training for Babies?

Baby Crying? Don’t Shame the Parents!

Evil Babies and Parenting (Alice Miller’s Insights)

Why Babies Need Dads Too

Staying in Touch With Real Babies: Correcting the AAP

Why Early Experience Matters: Famous Scholars Know

The Dangers of Spanking a Baby

The Single Most Important Thing to Know About a Baby

Babies “don’t cry in Africa,” why should they cry in the USA?

Blame the baby or blame the experts?

Dumb Parent(ing), Dumberer Child

How to Grow a Smart Baby


Dangers of “Crying it Out”

6 Hidden Myths Behind Baby Sleep Training Advocacy

Child Sleep Training’s “Best Review of Research”

Parents Misled by Cry-It-Out Sleep Training Reports

Rebuttal to critique: Rebuking Bad Parenting Advice: Did We Go Too Far?

Baby Sleep Training: Mistakes “Experts” and Parents Make

‘Let Crying Babes Lie’? So Wrong

Simple Ways to Calm a Crying Baby

Normal, Human Infant Sleep: Feeding Method and Development

Normal Infant Sleep: Changing Patterns

Normal Parent Behaviors and Why They Won’t Hurt Your Child

Normal Infant Sleep: Night Nursing’s Importance

More Normal Parenting for Sleep

Understanding and Helping Toddler Sleep

Understanding and Helping Toddler Sleep-Tiredness?

Understanding and Helping Toddler Sleep–Preparing Success

SIDS: Risks and Realities

Bed Sharing With Babies: What is the Hype About?

Bedsharing or Co-Sleeping Can Save Babies’ Lives

Conversation with a Mother about Sleep Training her Baby

Avoid Stressful Sleep Training and Get the Sleep You Need

Flawed Sleep-Training Study Makes Invalid Claims-in the News


New Moms Need Social Support

Painkillers for Childbirth? The Few Pros and Many Cons

What’s the Use of Midwives and Doulas?

Jesus Had a Home Birth

What if Jesus Had Been Born in the USA?


Myths about Circumcision You Likely Believe

More Circumcision Myths You May Believe: Hygiene and STDs

Circumcision: Social, Sexual, Psychological Realities

Circumcision Ethics and Economics

What Is the Greatest Danger for an Uncircumcised Boy?

Why Continue to Harm Boys from Ignorance of Male Anatomy?

Practical Tips for Men Distressed by Their Circumcision

Pro-Circumcision Culturally Biased, Not Scientific: Experts

Letter to “Happily Circumcised” Father

Circumcision’s Psychological Damage

Protect (All) Your Boys from Early Trauma

Practical Tips for Men Distressed by Their Circumcision

Letter to “Happily Circumcised” Father

Why Not Circumcise Your Boy? A Potential Link to Autism

BREASTFEEDING (More resources here)

Stand Up For Breastfeeding

Talk About Breastfeeding With Your Family, Friends and Doctor

Breastmilk Wipes Out Formula: Responses to Critical Comments

In Light of Last Week’s Posts: Is Pushing* Formula Evil?

Breastfeeding Resources

The REAL Truth about Breastfeeding

5 Things You Thought You Knew about Breastfeeding

The TREMENDOUS Benefits of Doing What is Normal: Breastfeeding

Myths you probably believe about infant formula

Your assumptions about infant formula are probably wrong

It’s Breastfeeding Week: Why should you care?

What Do You Know About Breastfeeding?

Breastfeeding as Companionship: An Ancient Tradition

To Doubters of The Importance of Breastfeeding

The Myth of “Breastfeeding is Optional”

Breastfeeding: What Is It Good For?

Breast Milk Keeps Time and May Set Baby’s Clock

Breastfeeding’s Importance—What Science Tells Us

Breastfeeding in the USA—A Little History

How Do Children Learn Respect for Others?

New Book, Unlatched, Explores Whether Breastfeeding Is Vital

Breastfeeding Moms Face Illegal Discrimination at Work


Happiness and Growth Through Play

Playing with Heart

Children May Be Playing, But Their Brains Are Working

Is Pretend Play Good For Kids?

Playing at School: More Important Than We Thought?

Does Too Much Screen Time Make Kids Sick?

Infant Couch Potatoes

What’s Better: Indoor or Outdoor Play?

Why Play with a Child?

How to Play as an Adult

Social Play: A Longstanding Way to Cope

The Benefits of Play Events in Your Community

Start a Play Club in Your School

Community Service: Teens Make Great Play Advocates

Inter-generational Games Night

Make Play Part of a Planned Community Event

“The Emperor’s New Groove,” A Movie that Teaches Ethics

Why Close a Street to Play as a Community?

Pushing Play in the Community

How to Plan a Play Day in Your Community

How to Start a Play Committee in Your Community

The Play Lady Tells Us How to Become Play-ers


Should We Touch Our Children During a Pandemic?

How to Respect a Baby Through Positive Touch

Are you or your child on a (touch) starvation diet?

Mother’s touch of dead baby causes “miracle”

Premies: Maternal Touch Has 10-Year Effects

Why Hug?


Creating a Peaceful World Through Parenting

Should Toddlers Be Medicated for ADHD?

Successful Motherhood Is a Collaboration

Love Starts With Babies

Research on Spanking: It’s Bad for ALL Kids

What Happened to Ethics in Pediatric Medicine?

Baby-, Parent- or Life-Centered Parenting?

Ten Ways to Truly Respect Motherhood

Slings and Heroes

Parents Should Know the Limitations of Science Experiments

Are you treating your child like a prisoner?

Undercare: The bane of American life?

Promoting Thriving in School-Aged Children: A Checklist

Is it good to make kids afraid?

How NOT to Ruin a Child

What Does Good Parenting Look Like? You Decide.

Cocooning With Kids: Schools Closed, What Now?

Cocooning with Kids: Explaining and Redirecting

6 Kinds of Abilities Children May Learn Better Outside Classrooms

Thriving or Just Surviving? Are Your Children Nested?

How to Stop Disrespecting Your Children

Adult Justification of Child Humiliation and Mistreatment

“Having Guts” to Harden Parents’ Hearts

Anxious Parents Helped by “World’s Worst Mom”

Domination or Partnership? How Does Your Family Stack Up?

Conflict in the Family: Why Mom and Dad Should Say “Sorry”

Why Dad’s “Talk” is Important

“Mr. Mom” The New (or Old?) Normal

Why Kids Should Be Protected from Toxic Stress

“I Want It—Now!” How Children Learn Self-Control

Kindness in Kids and The Nature-Nurture Debate

Raised Nested: Species-Typical Child Raising

Brain-Based Parenting: Understand and Heal the Parent Brain

Humility: The Missing Virtue?

Are Child Raising Practices Related to Extremism?

What Does the Family Foster: A Lovable or Unlovable Self?

Dear Parents: “No Spanking” Says APA

Sacrificing Children’s Health to Profits

Helping a Child in Distress

The Love We Want But Miss

In Celebration of Mothering

From Mother to Motherers: We’re Grateful for Their Support

Allomothers: Our Evolved Support System for Mothers


Childism Revisited

Are You a “Childist?” Test Yourself

Babies Are Needy—Does That Bug You?

Do We Need Declaration for the Rights of the Baby?

Where Are the Happy Babies?

The Decline of Children and the Moral Sense

Believing “children are resilient” may be a fantasy

How America Morally Fails its Children: What Needs to Change

Increase the well-being of children around you


Do You Know Your Basic Needs? There Are More Than You Think

We Can Heal the Shock We Carry

Using Your Brain’s Plasticity to Increase Your Serenity

Insights From the “New Science of Self-Actualization”

Understanding the Integrated Brain

What Are the Characteristics of Thriving Adults?

How to Live This Year as if It Were Your Last

Can Sheltering-in-Place Bring About More Mental Health?

Become More Peaceful, No Matter the Circumstances

Sanctuary for Attachment-Broken People

Self Actualization: Individualistic or Holistic Connection?

In the Borderland of Consciousness

Approaching the Borderland of Transformation

Pathways Out of Depression

Mr. Rogers, for Grownups

Partnership Not Domination Fosters Wellbeing

Self-Transformation 2: Ego-Dissolution

Self-Transformation, Step 1: Building the Ego

Does Your Psyche Embrace Flourishing?

The Bracing, Empty Self versus the Open, Heart-Minded Self

Understanding Attachment and Its Consequences

Addressing Your Primal Wound

Understanding Epigenetics and What Makes You You

The Ever-Present Ghost of Shame

Older and Weaker, or Older and Wiser?

Raising Boys to Be Disconnected

Relational Disconnection as Mental Illness

How to Get on the Path to Self Actualization

The Power of Social Habitats

Self-Actualization: Are You on the Path?

Stories of Connection to Heal the Primal Wound

Stories That Heal Primal Wounds

Tales of the Primally Wounded

Fantasyland: A Nation of Primally Wounded People

How to Heal the Primal Wound

Your Primal Wound: What Happened in Childhood?

The Primal Wound: Do You Have One?

How to Be Happy

Why Are (Some) Males’ Egos So Fragile?

Attachment Social Play for Self-Transformation


What Societal Characteristics Are Associated With Peace?

The Scars of Moral Injury From George Floyd’s Death

The Kind of Intelligence We Need Now

What Is Education For?

The Social Structures That Support You (or Not)

Do You Know How to Evaluate Truth Claims?

Five Ways Many Americans Are Impoverished (Beyond Money)

Which America? Which Christianity? Which Path?

White Supremacy in the Tradition of American Christianity

Book Review: Dying of Whiteness

The Psychology of Corruption: Kleptocracy vs. Democracy

Historical Roots of Polarization: Democracy or Oligarchy?

The Psychology of Domestic Terrorists: Eliminationism

Are We All Authoritarians?

The Psychology of Donald Trump

Ecocentrism: What May Be Needed to Save Our Species

Inhuman Treatment of Others Is a Thought Away

Know How Your Implicit Associations Are Fostered

Domination Logic and the History of Slavery

The Worldview Underlying White-European Culture Supremacism

Understanding the “Cultural Bomb” of Whiteness

Conservatism, Racism, and Fascism Confused

Only for the Brave? Uncovering White Supremacy

Why Are Some People Noncompliant With Stay-at-Home Orders?

Mindful Conservatism: Humanity’s Past—and Future?

What Does Compassion Look Like During a World Crisis?

How Globalized Capitalism May Affect Your Psyche

Learning From Years Lived Abroad

Industrial vs Primal Intelligence: What We Are Missing

Is America Governed by a Cult?

Culture Transformation: Learning How You Are Privileged

Why Are Humans Destroying Themselves and the Planet?

The Psychology of Supremacism: Whether White, Male or Human

Mass Killers Explained by Syndrome E (Evil)

Love for a Killer: “A Very Evil Kid”

Solving Humanity’s Emotional Disorders

Explaining the Ferguson Killing: Five Factors

Are You Superstitious? Yes!


Natives Foster Happy People Without Overthinking

Indigenous Psychologies from Around the World

Indigenous Psychologies Contrast With Western Psychology

What Wise Elders Know

Sustainable Wisdom: Indigenous Style

Wise Elders in the Circle of Life

Earth Home Economics: Rebecca Adamson and “Enoughness”

American Indians: The Misunderstood Heritage

10 Indigenous Holistic Healing Practices

Self-Actualize and Become a Wise Elder

Broken Eagle Wing: Mending Worldview

How Many Worldviews Are There? Is Only One Sustainable?

Our Ancestors Were Smart and Good


Daily Practices That Increase Nature Connection

Learn Again to Be an Earth Creature

Socially Distanced? Get Closer to Nature

Getting Connected to Nature

Nature Heals, Restores, and Comforts

Analyses of Inaction Toward the Ecological Crisis

We Are in a Climate Emergency—How Can Psychology Help?

The “Death of Birth” and Losing Nature

Humans Defeat Nature—As Prescribed. Now What?

A Good Life: Embodied, Earth-Centric or Controlled, Detached

Changing the Human Psyche for Living Sustainably

Living Virtuously– With the Land


Identity Changes When You See More Clearly

Does Morality Require Changing Yourself or the World?

Religion’s Roots: Self-Transform to Increase Compassion

What’s it Like to Experience the Transrational Borderland?

Is Religion About Belief or Behavior?

Hugs and Cuddles Instead of Spanking

Is Personality Influenced by Early Psychic Wounding?

 Why You Should Cuddle Your Kids: Adult Health and Morality

Why Does “Caveman” Parenting Influence Adult Morality?

Love & Life: Who Decides What Lives?

Ten Signs of Love

Moral Absence in Everyday Life

Morality: Seeds Must Be Planted Rightly in Early Life

Is Humanity’s “Moral Sense” Inherited or Nurtured?

Why Worry About Undercared for Males? Messed up Morals!

Facing Threat with Integrity

Trump, Stress Reactivity, Trance, and Ethics

Why Does ‘Caveman’ Parenting Support Adult Mental Health?

Blogs traducidos en espanol

El declive de los niños y del sentido moral

Blogs translated to Russian

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