Wrapping Up

After having been back in the US for a week and a half, I already miss some aspects of the Italian culture in which I was participating and notice that, in the US, there are some aspects of life that are wildly different.

For example, I miss having dinner with my host family and talking for hours (literally) about the things we had done, experiences, and what we hope would happen in the future. I noticed that in the US, at least my family, does not eat dinner like this on a regular basis.

Maybe this could change in the near future if I were to suggest it, but with a college lifestyle it’s very unlikely that anything changes.

One thing I do miss most was not just eating with what I now consider family, but also seeing my Italian relatives who were happy to see that I had made the effort to learn the language and see them. Hopefully I return to Italy (with better Italian) and see them again for another trip!

Analyzing Cultural Dimensions

The first aspects I noticed from the different ‘cultural dimensions’ between Italy and the United States was the differing levels of individuality and indulgence. In both scenarios, Italy has a lower score compared to the United States, and in terms of indulgence, the score is less than half of that of the United States. These scores were evident from Italy’s culture because, from what I was able to observe, I found Italy to be a more homogenous country with more simplistic and traditional values.

For example, in terms of indulgence, most Italians do not own an abundance of “things” as I have seen in the US, there are less houses and more apartments, which creates a more limited, simplistic, and routine lifestyle. Also, being that Italians are less inclined to indulge, I noticed that there were also some cultural ties that encouraged this self-control like some of the catholic-paganism ideology that existed and traditions that were generally enforced by families. Americans, on the contrary, seem to be more inclined to indulge with all of the innovation and production that goes on in the country. I am guilty of it as well, with conveniences like amazon and online shopping, it is almost encouraged and a part of our culture.

As for other aspects that seem to be a part of our culture, the idea of individualism seems to be one as well. It is evident that America prides itself on its individuality and the fact that anyone has the freedom to do almost anything that they choose in order to make a living. However, in Italy, most likely due to its more homogenous culture and tendencies, is less individualistic than the US. This was evident by how Italians would choose to spend their free time, and it was evident that there were always large groups of people doing the same activities and spending time together. It could also be seen by the lack of people in the city at times, because for the Palio, it was tradition for the losing ‘contrade’ to go on vacation afterwards.

Critical Incidents So Far (DIVE)

For our scheduled day-trip to Florence, my friends and I went to a restaurant recommended to us by a Notre Dame Professor. While ordering, I knew that I was very hungry and I had always wanted to try the famous ‘Bistecca alla Fiorentina’ so I ordered a ‘primo’ dish, and then asked the waiter for the steak as my ‘secondo’. Using the ‘D’ from ‘DIVE’, I saw a look of shock from his face. I then heard him ask me “for everyone?”, which made me interpret that he did not understand me and thought that I could not eat the steak myself. He then said, “you know it’s one kilo” and then I politely told him that if I was not able to finish it myself that then I would share.

I feel that the staff verified their doubts in my ability to finish the steak when they felt the need to bring it out before cooking it to show me what I was about to eat. They asked me if this is what I was expecting, and I said yes. At this point, I made it my goal to finish the steak myself. The secondi dishes came out, and within 30 minutes I had finished the entire steak, all 35 ounces. For other critical incidents, I will certainly use the DIVE method as I thought that it was a strong source of motivation for myself and in my abilities while living abroad.

Reconciling New Perspectives

From spending time with my host family at the dinner table, I have noticed that their heterostereotypes of Americans come from their time hosting Americans, American tourists, and also American cinema. Based on their stereotypes, some certainly fit the description and I personally know many who would be “Americans” in their eyes. Though the stereotypes are not all positive, it is still important to consider that they have these stereotypes for a reason and that there is possibly some amount of truth in their ideas. Their perspectives, due to the world in which we live that is ever more globalized, could be influenced by television and the drama that comes with TV programs, but also from a small pool or “sample-size” of Americans that possibly tend to travel more than others.

Some stereotypes that aligned with my perspective of Americans who decide to travel was our slight arrogance when traveling. My host family and I have experienced many instances where Americans (including myself) have maybe not shown the utmost of respect while traveling. Another more positive stereotype or characteristic that we shared was Americans’ ability to think beyond themselves in terms of building a family and creating “generational wealth”.

Reflecting on heterostereotypes makes me feel humbled as it reminds me that I am also a tourist and representing my country (despite how much I would like to consider myself Italian). From these reflections, I now know that my heterostereotypes that I held with Italy may not be fair assumptions and all probably are not as “true” as I once thought.