
We all know the feeling, I think. You just ate dinner, maybe it was great, maybe it wasn’t. Regardless, you’re in the mood. You’ve got an itch. You want some dessert.
I don’t know if it’s just me, but there’s always that feeling of subtle judgment when you indicate that you want dessert after dinner when dining in the US. Even if there’s no judgy looks, the culture around asking for dessert is an unspoken “I won’t unless you do, please dear god speak up I want some ice cream” narrative we only really communicate through a hesitant 30 second long period of charged looks when the waiter at a restaurant asks if we want a dessert menu.
You’ll understand my surprise then, when my host family informed me that not only would we be having dessert most nights, but that it was more than normal to have dessert after meals in France, or that when I would go out to eat, it seemed like an expectation that I would get dessert. In fact, the culture around food is a lot more structured, and often includes parts of a meal that we don’t typically take (appetizers and dessert are usually expected). As my host mom told me, the order of a meal is entree (appetizer), plat (main course), and dessert OR cheese (though we’d often take both because I discovered I am addicted to french cheese).
I don’t necessarily know what this indicates about me, but I do think that I noticed more of a balance when it comes to the idea of indulgence in France. They are more inclined to eat what they want to eat (I don’t think I touched a vegetable I didn’t actively seek out), but they are more strict with things like recycling, turning off lights, public transportation, and not using plastic. Perhaps it’s more of a balanced approach to indulgent living, and I am curious to see how it compares when I return to the US.